Stop Keeping Score

I want you to stop keeping score. There are two types of people in the world: those who keep score, and those who don’t. I’m not a scorekeeper. Never have been. That doesn’t mean I’m not hella competitive. Trust me, if you’re on a rowing machine, treadmill, or spin bike next to me, I’m racing you… … Read more

Do You Feel Loved?

Do you feel loved? It’s a big question, I know. But I’ve been feeling this question deeply as of late. Here’s why: 1. My eldest son is reviewing his college options, having gotten into (and been rejected from) a diversity of schools. Where should he go? Which should he choose? Which school will allow him … Read more

Are Your Critics Right About You?

Are your critics right about you? I had an interesting experience last week. And, I don’t mean my happy sheet cake dance for my 50th birthday. (See what you are missing if you aren’t following me on Instagram?) No, I did something even more uncomfortable than eating half of a sheet cake meant for an … Read more

This is 50

This is me. This is 50. This is unbridled enthusiasm running headlong into discomfort and doubt. ⁣ This is bravado, bravery, and boldness questioning all the things at all the times. ⁣ This is fierceness and femininity wrapped in a moxie-driven, awkwardly uncoordinated, lemon of a body. ⁣ This is a best-selling author and in-demand … Read more

Service is the Way

In 1992, I fell under the spell of a candidate and even more of an ideal I heard him state in an impassioned speech on a tiny black and white TV in a small strip mall in Gainesville, Florida. I dropped out of law school, and went to work to get him elected, and later … Read more

The Best Gift I Was Ever Given

The best gift I was ever given didn’t cost a dime, and it changed my life. When I was 17 years old I began to slow dance with an eating disorder. By the time I was 21, it had its lifeless clutches wrapped so tightly around my self worth that every waking moment was spent … Read more

Goodbye is a Gift

I’m learning how to say goodbye. For someone who has so much, I wrote a lot about loss this year. I wrote about loss of identity in the first weeks of the pandemic — loss of my business, loss of my kids’ rites of passage, loss of all of our normalcy. I wrote about loss … Read more