“Dream it, and then you can be it!” I’m calling bullshit. You know those sun-soaked, flaxen-haired, boho-chic girls in Instagram memes, the ones who blow dandelion petals into the air as they stare longingly, and yet purposefully, into the distance? This is precisely the kind of advice they give. And it’s terrible. Don’t believe me? Then
We want our lives to matter. We want our love to matter. And, we want our work to matter. But, how can we feel confident that it does? It starts by first figuring out your consonance. So, what is consonance? It’s best explained by one of my favorite stories. Sing along if you know the
I have a freak flag. And I’m damned proud of it. That wasn’t always the case. I worked hard to fit in, to be like everyone else, to wear the right clothes, get the right jobs, say the right things. And, I was good at it, and it sucked. You see, I was
I think what makes me different as a speaker is that I have this attitude, this fearless attitude. I know that everybody who's sitting in the audience is just as afraid of screwing up as I am. Everyone that's in the audience listening has the same fears the rest of us do. We
Seven years ago, Katherine E. Jacobs and I ate slices of the best dive NYC pizza. Immediately after, we proudly marched ourselves into the chief executive suites at the ACLU to announce it would be a capital idea to put our little search-firm-that-could on retainer. You see, we knew the demographics of all their state affiliate offices
No one said parenting was easy. No one said having a career was either. Being both a parent and a professional creates a constant battle between your head and heart leaving your emotions as the unintended victim. I recently read a friend's Facebook confession of how they were feeling guilty for being away from
(Disclaimer: Using these networking tips may result in an enormous Rolodex, through which you might change the world.) 1. You will say something inane, at some point, to someone. Someone will reject you, look for someone more interesting, or only be half listening. Get over it. Keep going. No one really cares. 2.
Let’s face it: it’s hard to be superwoman. We try to do everything, know everything, be everything. We juggle and we dance and we pivot and we sway. At work, we learn to delegate, to manage, to conscript the cavalry. We call in our teams, and we ask them to support us in our goals.
Men lead with confidence. Women lead with competence. In fact, studies show that men vie for promotions, initiate salary negotiations (and ask for bigger increases when they do), and run for office with far less prompting, if any, than women. And why is that? If you ask a woman whether or not she is ready
At the 2018 Academy Awards, Frances McDormand closed a traditional Best Actress blah-blah-blah-I’d-like-to-thank-the-Academy acceptance speech with this: “I have two words to leave with you tonight, ladies and gentlemen: inclusion rider!” It was said so seriously, so oddly out of cadence with the rest of the personal, heartfelt vibe of her remarks. It was industry