Wonderhell: Why Success Doesn’t Feel Like It Should and What to Do About It – A Conversation with Laura Gassner Otting
Publication: Thought Economics
Have you ever accomplished something you weren’t so sure you could do? Success has always been the end goal, but when you achieve it … something infuriatingly predictable happens. You start wondering what more you can do.
Instead of success bringing you happiness, it hands you an increased hunger to achieve something even bigger. And with that desire also comes uncertainty, self-doubt, anxiety and stress. Success, in other words, is ‘kinda’ wonderful … but it’s also ‘kinda’ hell. Welcome to Wonderhell! Wonderhell is that space in your psyche where the burden of your newly discovered potential plops down, unpacks its backpack, and asks: Hey, you! Whatcha got for me? Living in an ambitious, results-oriented society, we often mischaracterize the turbulent emotions that surround success, deeming them a “necessary evil”—a byproduct of one’s rise to the top. We tend to think that we just need to survive these difficult moments, to hang on by our fingernails and somehow get through these stressful, unwanted side effects of our success. We torture ourselves with a never-ending internal dialogue: I can handle this. Can I handle this?
